Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be filled with problems, cause sorrow, and other harms. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness thing, money, age difference, spiritual background, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are seeking affairs. I am sure typically though it is just the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your spouse or anyone else? You will need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, huge actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your finances are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Neglect, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his lady for a multitude of reasons. As a man I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown separately, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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